Talking To Your Grandchildren About Justice Kavanaugh?

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Should You Talk To Your Grandchildren About Justice Kavanaugh?

By Jerry Witkovsky

You might say why would I purposely have a conversation about Justice Kavanaugh with my grandchild?

Perhaps the conversation is not so much about him specifically, but around what kinds of discussions grandparents and grandchildren can have around the news and current events. Our grandchildren hear so much and learn so much outside of the carefully crafted worlds we would wish for them. Depending on their age, they may not understand everything that’s going on. They may react differently based on their gender. They may be angry at how adults are handling things. Or they may not care. But maybe they should.

An opening from a grandparent may be just what your grandchild needs to process what they are already seeing and hearing in their world. Of course, you know your grandchild best. Pick and choose or add your own questions, based on who they are. And for anything that feels controversial, always ask your children, aka your grandchildren’s parents, first.

Talking about Democracy Starts Young

In an effort to perpetuate democracy, many parents have been bringing their children to the voting booth with them since they were babies. Ever since the #metoo movement started, I, for one, ask my granddaughters every time I see them, “When are you running for office?” Not even just my grandchildren. If I see a woman who I know to be a great leader, I simply ask: “What’s holding you back?”

Having a Supreme Court that is beyond reproach is a core pillar of democracy. Depending on your grandchild’s age, there are plenty of places to start a conversation.

  1. What does the Supreme Court do?
  2. What qualities do you think would make a good Supreme Court judge?
  3. How do you gauge if a potential Supreme Court justice knows law and the constitution?
  4. How can you determine if a judicial candidate is able to judge fairly, regardless of gender or other external markers of difference?
  5. How objective is interpretation of the US Constitution—should someone’s political party matter when enforcing the law?
  6. Should Judge Kavanaugh be confirmed for the Supreme Court? Why or why not?
  7. How does someone become a Supreme Court justice
  8. If you were asking the questions, what would you want to know about a potential Supreme Court Justice?

This is an important conversation to have with a child, and that can have arms and legs. Go to see RBG, the documentary about Ruth Bader Ginsburg together. Get a “Pocket Constitution” for each of your grandchildren. Go out for ice cream and talk about it together.

Talk about Personal Character and Public Office

There are plenty of conversations to have about one’s character and qualifications to hold public office. There was a time when there was a distinction between one’s “personal” life that was considered private and “professional” life that was public. But with the invasiveness of social media privacy may be a nostalgic notion. Here are some conversation starters around this topic:

  1. Is it a valid distinction to differentiate between personal and public character?
  2. Should someone be forgiven for something they did long ago?
  3. How about a conversation about accountability and people accepting responsibility for their actions.
  4. How do you discern the truth when you hear different sides of a story?

This may also be a time to have a conversation more broadly (beyond the current headlines) about making mistakes, as in no one is perfect. We make mistakes. Don’t keep them buried in you. Get them out and talk about the mistake and make better choices next time.

Talk about “-isms.”

Racism, sexism, double-standards. Even the current use of “Democrat” or “Republican” as a label for the “other” is the exact essence of prejudice stereotyping that fuels “isms”. It’s labeling all people of a single group as being monolithic. At the same time businesses are putting diversity and inclusion front and center as a core value for ongoing success, our government is getting more and more entrenched in this two-party-the-other-is-the-enemy binary.

  1. How would you define healthy relationships in high school?
  2. What does it mean if someone says there’s a double-standard about an issue?
  3. How would you respond or intervene if you saw a friend doing something they shouldn’t do?
  4. What does racism mean? Do people in the US still experience racism?
  5. What does sexism mean? Do people in the US still experience sexism?

If my grandchildren could figure out this one, I’d hope that they would be nominated for the Supreme Court.

Talk about your own thoughts.

Most of these conversations I suggest with your grandchildren are more abstract. They go beyond the specifics of the Brett Kavanaugh confirmation hearings to talk more broadly about related ideas. I do think it’s important to say what you think in a way that’s not “preachy”. But do share your opinion as an example of how to respectfully state your position on an issue.

What questions will you ask your grandchildren?

ABOUT THE AUTHOR – JERRY WITKOVSKY

Jerry Witkovsky, author of The Grandest Love is a long-time social work professional, grandparenting activist, and passionate grandpa.  Jerry offers fresh approaches to help grandparents enter their grandchild’s world, to leave values, not just valuables and create a living legacy. Jerry created the Grandparent-Grandchild Connection School Program and curricula with Deanna Shoss, President & CEO of Intercultural Talk, Inc., in 2016, to work with schools as the platform to teach grandparents and grandchildren how to enter each other’s world. Learn more here

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