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Born Free’s Virginia McKenna

Born Free's Virginia McKenna

Actress and wildlife conservationist Virginia McKenna speaks to the personal freedom that binds us together

By Mary Ann Cooper

 

Virginia McKenna and her late husband, Bill Travers, achieved worldwide fame in 1966 playing real-life conservationists Joy and George Adamson in the film Born Free. The film brought them critical acclaim and inspired them to become wildlife documentary filmmakers and lifelong wildlife-conservation activists. Although Born Free sparked Virginia and Bill’s shared commitment to protecting wild animals and keeping them in the wild, it was the miserable death of a young female elephant named Pole Pole that led the couple, along with their son Will, to create Born Free Foundation — an international wildlife protection and research charity.

“Bill was quite well known when we did Born Free, but he quit acting to respond to things that touched him deeply. He had a great compassion not only for animals but also for people. Will is very like Bill in the way he thinks about things. He’s an inspirational leader.”

Virginia still volunteers for Born Free Foundation. She also cherishes time spent with her four children, ten grandchildren, and two great grandchildren — all of whom she clearly adores.

“It’s absolutely joyful,” Virginia says of being a grandmother. “I do things individually with them. I try to do things they are interested in.”

Born Free’s Virginia McKenna and Bill Travers

This respect for individuality and personal freedom seems to sum up Virginia’s life philosophy, permeating the causes she champions as well as her relationships with her children and grandchildren.“You learn as they get older to let them be themselves. You can say only so much to people in life. Also, I don’t like discord. There’s enough discord out there in the world without having it in your own family. I don’t want my personal life to reflect that in any way.”

A mutual respect for individuality also contributed to Virginia’s marriage. “We were very fortunate in our relationship with each other. One of the things that perhaps made it last so long, as well as loving each other, was that we understood we needed to be able to express ourselves as individuals. We both knew that by giving people space and a sort of freedom binds you more closely.”

Virginia’s children have followed their parent’s streak for individuality and given her beautiful grandchildren. Justin, a film director, has three children: Jackman (9), Emily (7), and Benjamin (1½). Daniel, a model and diver who works on underwater films, has two children: Luca (9) and Bee (4). Louise, who lives in Australia, has four grown children — Lindon (26), Ashlin (24), Geordie (20) and Tess (18) — and two grandchildren, Alex (5) and Emma (3). Will, CEO of Born Free USA and Born Free Foundation, has two children: Lily (22) and William (Wij, 19).

Virginia McKenna and son Will

Virginia and granddaughter Lily share a mutual admiration. Virginia says of Lily, “She’s ravishingly beautiful and really quite stunning. . . . [and] a very good natural actress. She’s got a lot of potential.”Lily says, “Everyone I’ve ever met who has talked to Granny is always impressed by how kind and gentle, generous, elegant, and poised she is, which always makes me proud. She was always successful as a gorgeous actress, but I admire that she achieved something above and beyond her own self-interest.”Lily says her grandmother has also told her stories, and she has wonderful childhood memories of being with her. “One day Granny took me and all my cousins on a mini adventure on a blow-up boat, and we ate chips and crisps, and had different names, and played different roles. It was a really lovely day just exploring. She always seemed to give us a taste for adventure.”

Virginia encourages grandparents to share their personal experiences with grandchildren. “Grandparents can talk about things not only from an historical standpoint, with books, but [also] from their own experience of life and how they used to see things.”

“I want my grandchildren to grow up to be sensitive to other creatures. Keeping wild creatures in confined spaces with incorrect socializing is very damaging and deeply sad. We don’t want our children and grandchildren growing up thinking that’s okay. We want them to grow up feeling much more compassionate and understanding of wild creatures.”

Compassionate, understanding, sensitive — words that describe Virginia McKenna’s philosophy for living and this remarkable woman herself.

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Mary Ann Cooper

 

Mary Ann Cooper is a celebrity journalist and the author of Grandeur: The Personal Reflections of Famous Grandparents.

 

 

Are the Animals in Your Local Zoo Healthy and Happy?

Next time you take your grandchildren to the zoo, you might want to take along “Zoo Check — a downloadable and printable form that helps you to assess the well-being of the animals. During or after your visit to the zoo, you can use the form to teach you grandkids about the humane treatment of animals in captivity. Later, you can send the form to Born Free USA / Animal Protection Institute.

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Can Grandparents Profit from Risks?

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By Dennis Miller
Live off the interest, and never touch the principal. Today’s retirees had this drummed into their minds long ago. It is, after all, a laudable goal, and something every retiree and person approaching retirement should aspire to. But how in the heck are we supposed to do it?A friend recently told me he rolled over a five-year CD paying 1.2% because his banker said it was a good rate. Ah! I nearly fell out of my chair when I heard that. A 1.2% interest rate won’t even keep up with inflation, let alone allow someone to live off the interest. He may think he’s investing conservatively by keeping his money in FDIC-insured CDs, but his buying power is quickly slipping through his fingers.

So, what interest rate does it take? About 12%, that’s all. According to over 3,000 readers of my regular weekly column, our cost of living has risen about 8% in the last year. If that number is anywhere close to accurate — and I’m inclined to believe it is — our portfolios need to earn 8% to cover rising costs and 4% to supplement those measly Social Security checks.

My CD-investing friend is taking the biggest risk of all: ignoring the reality of the times we live in. Maybe he’s too paralyzed by fear to step away from the familiar. Maybe he doesn’t know where to find better options. And maybe he’s like so many of us who just want to bury our heads in the sand. Doing nothing, however, is a decision, and a particularly poor one during times of high inflation.

Like an ostrich pulling his head out of the sand

I advised my friend to start doing his homework. He can still take a conservative approach to his overall portfolio, but he should also consider putting up to 10% of it into a mix of speculative investments. Retirees certainly shouldn’t go overboard and risk more than that, but he won’t be wiped out if something goes wrong with a small portion of his nest egg. In reality, he’s already taking a much bigger risk without the chance of reward that speculative investments offer.

So where should we put our 10%? First, do not put it all into one company. Slice it up into smaller pieces; the exact number varies according to the size of your portfolio and your personal risk tolerance. Then, pinpoint a few well-researched speculative investments, and get your toes wet. There are many specialty, sector-focused newsletters out there to help.

One newsletter I subscribe to focuses on the extraordinary profit potential in the technology sector. Many of the investments it recommends have one of two outcomes: investors see windfall gains, or they lose a little money. I’m excited about one recommendation in particular, a small pharmaceutical company that’s developing cutting-edge medical tests. Companies like this one function as research and development for the whole industry. Once the tests receive FDA approval, they will likely be purchased by a much larger company, and investors may see life-changing profits.

But before you start decorating your new beach house, remember, we must do our homework. High-quality newsletters have several pages of research explaining each of their recommendations. Read them carefully and be very selective.

And start slowly. Limit any one investment to no more than 5% of your portfolio. If it gains 50%, that’s a 2.5% gain for your entire portfolio. If it doubles, that’s a 5% gain. That takes a lot of pressure off the other 95%, and puts you a few steps closer to truly living off the interest.

Also, read the updates and constantly monitor your positions. Yes, retirees must take risks, but only educated and extensively researched risks with a small portion of your nest egg.

One final tip: mutual funds and exchange-traded funds stress diversification. That works for the low-risk portion of your portfolio, but their spreadsheet analyses won’t do the trick for speculative investing. I prefer to invest my speculation capital strategically, where I have a thorough understanding of the company, product, industry, and profit potential.

So how do you get from where you are today to where you need to be?

A good way to start is to build a portfolio based on dividend income. Speculative stocks are great (and fun if they’re giving you good returns), but the core of your portfolio needs to be stocks you can rely on for stability; and a little extra cash through dividend payments is a bonus. To that I end I’ve put together a new report called Money Every Month outlining for you exactly how to build a portfolio that pays out each and every month and even tells you which stocks you should consider owning. If you want a copy just click here.

 

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Grandma, What Big Changes You’ve Made

As a 21st century grandma, you’re nothing like your own grandmas, who probably smelled of lavender and Ivory soap and kept a cloth handkerchief tucked up their sleeve. They darned socks, canned peaches and never came close to being cool. You wouldn’t have wanted them any other way.

You’d find them in the kitchen most of the time, where they doled out fresh-baked goodies and sage advice in equal measure. “Don’t wish your life away,” one of your apron-clad grannies might exclaim as she pulled a tray of heavenly cinnamon rolls out of the oven. “Summer vacation will be here soon enough.”

Or “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all,” your other grandma would scold when you made disparaging remarks about friends or siblings while helping her stir the fudge.

Barely seeming scoff-worthy back then, these pearls of wisdom are now among the life lessons you want to pass on to your grandkids, along with the importance of flossing and the fine art of conversation that isn’t digitally generated.

Today’s Supergrannies are light-years beyond the generations of grandmas that came before. Some of you are running marathons and companies. Some of you are even flying into outer space.

Yet it seems like only yesterday that you couldn’t decide if you were more devoted to John, Paul, George or Ringo,  so you carved all four names into your notebook. Plus the initials of that cuter-than-cute guy who sat behind you in science class. Then you wrote about him in your diary.

One day you were selling Girl Scout cookies door-to-door. The next day you were going steady with a boy whose hair was longer than yours. Your boots were definitely made for walkin’, and your adventurous spirit was eager to tag along.

Alas, your days of cutting out Katy Keene paper dolls and slipping Fabian’s picture under your pillow each night are in the past. You’re wearing granny glasses for real these days and, whoops, was that another hot flash? (Open freezer door, insert head.)

But you identify as much with the women of Sex and the City as you do with The Golden Girls. And while it may seem as if you’ve gone from blue jean baby to the Red Hat Society in no time at all, you’ve still got it and it’s getting better every day.

So forget the rocking chair. Place your order without delay for that personalized license plate you’ve been thinking about. You know the one: HOTGRMA. You go, girl.

 

Diana J. Ewing is the author of The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Grandparenting

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Google Translation, Anyone?

The Issue:

Billy Crystal and Bette Midler did it!  Battled with generational child-rearing clashes in their recent movie, “Parental Guidance”.  While the movie puts a humorous face on the whole issue, viewers can empathize with the grandparents feeling overwhelmed and just plain lost. 
Their daughter (played by Marissa Tomei) corrected them on their language. “No”, she instructed, should be replaced with “Consider the consequences”.  Instead of saying “Don’t”, she advised them to say, “Maybe you should do this”.  Makes me feel as if I need Google translation to understand today’s parenting language!
At times, it was over-the-top; at times, touching.  And in true Hollywood style, everything turned out happily ever after.  Still, the movie did a fairly good job of highlighting how much parenting has changed in language and approach.translate image grandparent parent4
For every parent and grandparent who has ever had a puzzled look, when listening to the other speaking to a child…..
The Grand-to-Parent/Parent-to-Grand Guide! Inspired by the movie, “Parental Guidance”, and our own experiences as Mom and Grand.
Noise, Commotion
Grandparent would say… Today’s ‘Parent Speak’
  • Stop whining!
  • Talking voice, please.
  • That’s way too loud.
  • Inside voice.
  • Settle down!  You’re making too much noise and jumping around too much.
  • We need to find a way to let out all that energy.  Go outside and run around!
Eating, Food
Grandparent would say… Today’s ‘Parent Speak’
  • You can’t start the day with an empty stomach. You can’t leave the house without breakfast.
  • Your body needs some energy for today! This is the only chance until lunchtime. (If they don’t eat and get hungry, reminds the child of it next time).
  • Don’t eat now.  You’ll spoil your dinner.
  • We’re having dinner soon.  You may have something healthy, if you can’t wait.
  • Clean your plate. Don’t waste food.
  • Serves healthy food first.  Then, let’s child decide how much to eat, based on how hungry he/she is.
  • You can’t leave the table until you’ve finished all your dinner.
  • Did you eat all you want? This is the last food until breakfast. Then unless the pediatrician has advised otherwise, let’s the child decide!
  • How about some juice?
  • Here’s some water.
  • Ok, one more sweet won’t hurt.
  • You’ve already had your sweet for today.
  • Don’t talk with your mouth full.
  • Don’t talk with your mouth full.

 

Daily Activities
Grandparent would say… Today’s ‘Parent Speak’
  • You need a nap.
  • Time for a rest.  (You don’t have to sleep.)
  • Because I said so!
  • Explains patiently. (But thinks, “Because I said so!”)
  • Clean up this mess you made with your toys.
  • Put your toys away.
  • I’m not going to ask you again!
  • That’s 1…(1, 2, 3 Magic)
  • It’s cold in here.  Put on a sweatshirt.
  • [Silence.]  If he gets cold, he’ll ask for a sweatshirt.
  • I said close the door. Not slam it!
  • Do over. Go close it softly, please.
  • It’s too early to get up. Go back to bed.
  • Come get me, when the clock says…
  • Before we leave, do you have to go to the bathroom?
  • (No need to say anything.  Both grandparents and the family friend have already asked him.)
  • Did you hear what I said?
  • Walks up to child, eye level, “Did you hear me?”
  • I can’t believe you just did that, after I told you not to.
  • That’s 1….(1, 2, 3 Magic)

 

Safety
Grandparent would say… Today’s ‘Parent Speak’
  • Be careful!
  • Walk. Look both ways for cars.
  • Wait for me!
  • STOP!
  • Don’t run!
  • Walk. Walking feet.

 

Being Nice, Getting Along
Grandparent would say… Today’s ‘Parent Speak’
  • Play nicely with your sister.
  • Please share.  Use your words.
  • Let him have some of your toys, too.
  • Can you pick out some of your toys to share with him?
  • Now say you’re sorry and mean it!
  • That hurt your friend.  What should you do?
  • Why did you just throw that?  Go to your room!
  • Asking a young child why they did something is like trying to teach a pig to sing. ‘It wastes your time and annoys the pig’. (Not that I am comparing children to pigs, but you get the point!) States the parental rule (“You know you cannot throw things.”) and has consequence.

We hope this guide is helpful (or at least humorous) and makes your journey a little easier! 

 

Here’s the website for “1, 2, 3 Magic”, a parenting method that Blair successfully uses with her 4 1/2 year old son. And having watched the video, Remy also uses it, when she’s with her grandson. It works!
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Grandma Has Wings!

Bosrock_cvr-frontBy Christine Crosby – Editorial Director for GRAND Magazine

Grandma Has Wings is an adventure that begins while six little girls are visiting their Grandma. Each has a special name for her. “I call her Gram Cracker.” “I call her Granny.” “I call her Gram-Gram.” “I call her Nana, ‘cuz I can’t say my “M” sound!” “I call her Grandma.”

When the girls come to visit, the minute they hit the front door, they head up to Grandma’s closet to play dress-up in Grandma’s clothes. She tells them stories, praising and adoring them. They tell Grandma all their secrets, and she is always ready to listen. But suddenly they discover Grandma has her own secret, which the girls cajole Grandma into sharing with them. Unhappy about the demise of her upper arms, Grandma has been hiding them for years. But when she shows them to her granddaughters, Grandma raises her soft, squishy arms and says, “Your Grandma has wings!”

This beautifully illustrated story keeps youngsters guessing, giggling, and wondering, “Can Grandma fly? Does Grandpa know? Will I grow wings someday?”

From adventure and silliness, Grandma Has Wings leads the reader into a warm-hearted story that speaks to the deep love between two generations of women—one grown, and one just beginning to grow. It ends with the comforting message that Grandma’s love is forever.

A reader wrote:

I had no idea what to expect when I first picked up this book. I was amazed that within just a few pages of reading, I remembered what it felt like to be a little girl and loved by my grandmother. But what was even more rewarding is the touching life lesson that you will gain about what really matters in life…warm memories with those we love and who truly love us, and the beauty of self-acceptance (a lesson for the little girls and big girls in life). The grandmother character in this book is a much-needed role model for girls today. This is a great book with a deep message. It would make a great gift, not only for grandmothers and granddaughters, but for anyone who needs a happy reminder that they are loved.

About the Author

Mary Murray Bosrock grew up in Sandusky, Ohio and lives in St. Paul, Minnesota. Mary got her wings when her two sons, Matt and Steve, gave her six granddaughters within eight years. After growing up with six brothers, Mary was used to boys. These little girls (who noticed things like arm fat, brown spots, veins, and dropping chins) amazed her. She learned to love what she couldn’t change by turning it into a story.

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How Grandparents Can Put Safety Before Savings

MH900439879By: Laura Nikolovska

Spring is here and you know what that means; warmer weather, spring cleaning, and… yard sales! Generally speaking, garage sales are a great place to get a good deal on products to use with your grandkids, but they are also a likely place to find dangerous, recalled products. That’s why KID (Kids In Danger) has developed a handy Yard Sale Safety Checklist  that you can bring with you as you shop. The checklist is full of great advice, but here are our 3 favorite tips:

1.)    A product with missing or broken pieces might seem like a good deal and an easy fix, but even if you can repair it that doesn’t ensure the product will be safe for your grandchild. Avoid buying items that will need repair.

2.)    Do not waste your money on dangerous products like bath seats, baby walkers, and crib bumper pads. Don’t think bargain when you see these items, think beware!

3.)    We all attach sentimental value to things we’ve saved from when our own children were kids.  But before you pull them out for the grand kids, remember that they may pose real hazards.  For example, you shouldn’t use, buy, or sell cribs made before June 28, 2011 because they do not meet tough new federal standards. Even if your grandkids will only be using the product for a short time, they are still not safe to use.

In addition, be extra careful checking when shopping for other sleep environments for babies (i.e portable cribs). Many of these products have new mandatory safety standards which older models just won’t meet.

The checklist is also great for sellers to display to show their commitment to product safety to their customers. If you are hosting a sale, be sure to review the list before the day of the sale and make sure you have followed each tip so protect your customers from unsafe products.  Feel free to print as many checklists as you like at our publications page, or email Laura and she will send complimentary copies.

 

KID is a nonprofit organization dedicated to protecting children by improving children’s product safety. Learn more at http://kidsindanger.org/

LauraNweb-150x150Laura Nikolovska came to Kids in Danger in September 2012 after 5 years in the education sector. She is currently the program associate at KID. For more information on how KID can provide grandparents with life saving product safety information, please contact Laura at 312-595-0649 or Laura@KidsInDanger.org.  

 

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How Grandparents Can Help Their “Kids” Teach “Their Kids” About Money Smarts

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by John Lanza

My mom recently sent my daughter a heartfelt, written card with $15 dollars inside. In front of Abraham Lincoln’s face on each of the three five spots was a yellow sticky note. The first read “Share,” the second “Save” and the last “Spend Smart.” Our eight-year-old quickly deposited the money in her Share, Save and Spend Smart jars. She was very excited, as was I.

In these difficult times, as families begin to refocus on the basics and recognize the importance of teaching their kids financial literacy from a young age, I’m seeing more grandparents getting the message from their kids to tone down spending on their grandkids. We set up an allowance system with my daughter three years before and had a nice discussion with my mom about how we really wanted to reduce consumption as a family and teach both our daughters to make smart money choices. It was so gratifying that she understood this, because I had heard friends complain of parents who were inundating grandkids with too much “stuff.” I’m glad we were able to have the conversation we did, which included diverting “stuff” money into our 529 or our charter school. The kids will certainly appreciate this when they’re older. Of course, kids live in the present. But, rather than “stuff,” the most important thing any kid wants is TIME with their grandparents. We’re lucky because they get a good dose of that as well.

Grandparents can also be true role models when it comes to giving back to the community. Our kids have that Share jar for charitable giving. Their grandparents can suggest that they give to the charities they support. There’s a conversation on the subject, and it helps the grandkids learn. To illustrate the importance of giving in your family, show your grandkids the donation check you’re writing. Even better, have them give you their Share jar money and include that amount in the check. Your grandkids will beam with pride and learn a great lesson to boot. Also, bringing your grandkids along for a volunteer day is a great way to teach kids the importance of charitable use of time, which is needed just as much as money.

I was lucky enough to have a grandfather who grew up in the depression — and who’s still around, I might add. His advice to me was to “live beneath my means” and “understand the value of compound interest.” I haven’t always heeded his advice, but I know I’m on the right track when I do. We used to make fun of his monochromatic, bargain clothes. Now I see that he was living the lesson he was teaching. We should all be so lucky.

John Lanza is the Chief Mammal at Snigglezoo Entertainment, Creator of the Dr. Toy award-winning Money Mammals DVD & book, Joe the Monkey Saves for a Goal, that helps kids learn to “Share & Save & Spend Smart Too” and the recently published Joe the Monkey Learns to Share. Lanza also runs The Money Mammals Saving Money Is Fun Kids Club for credit unions nationwide and blogs, tweets and writes often about youth financial literacy.  Find out more at www.themoneymammals.com

 

 

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