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Posted on October 4, 2011 by Christine Crosby in Susan Apolon

Start Paying Attention to How People Make You Feel

 Chances are, at some point in your life, you’ve met another person who just didn’t feel “right,” even though you might not have been able to put your finger on why. Maybe you called it a gut feeling, a premonition, or intuition, but you simply knew deep down that this relationship wouldn’t go anywhere good. Trusting such feelings is usually a smart idea even if there is no “rational” reason to do so.

When you’re with someone and you start to feel uncomfortable—edgy or ill at ease—pay attention,” she urges. How many times have you ignored that feeling because you wanted to trust someone else, only to regret it when you found yourself in a toxic or draining relationship? It is so important that you listen to your own inner wisdom, especially if you are beginning to notice that something does not feel right deep within your core.

Listen with your heart, not your ears. Whether you’ve just met someone or are spending time with a friend, coworker, or acquaintance you’ve known for years, really listen during your conversation. That doesn’t just mean using your ears—it also means using your heart.  In other words, look for a lack of congruity between the words being said and the way those words make you feel.

When someone is trying to lie to you, betray you, or fool you—whether they’re malicious or ‘just’ telling a white lie—you can usually tell.  Try to get into the habit of assessing yourself physically and emotionally on a regular basis.  How are you feeling?

Are you off-balance,  is your energy dropping, or do you not feel totally ‘there’? Remember, when your values are aligned with another’s, you’ll feel good. And also, keep in mind that a disagreement in this area doesn’t necessarily mean that another person is bad…just bad for you.”

Ignore popular opinion and trust your higher self. You might think, everyone else just loves the new guy at work, but he rubs me the wrong way. What am I not seeing? Or perhaps, on paper this high-profile client seems perfect for our company…so why does signing this contract make me feel so nervous?

Instead of wondering what you’re misinterpreting, trust yourself. Whether it’s a person, idea, or choice at stake, when you trust what you know intuitively, things will work out for the best—even if you can’t see how at the moment. Realize, though, that first you need to love and honor yourself. This is the basis for all peace and happiness. Once you love and honor yourself, you’ll be able to trust yourself rather than second-guessing that you know what’s right for you. It does take practice!

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Christine Crosby

About the author

Christine is the co-founder and editorial director for GRAND Magazine. She is the grandmother of five and great-grandmom (aka Grandmere) to one. She makes her home in St. Petersburg, Florida.

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