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Advice to the Divorced Parents of Your Grand Kids

By: Billie Tarascio and Allyson Del Vecchio of Tarascio & Del Vecchio Law Firm in Mesa

Divorce inAmericais now estimated to be at 50%. Each year, one million children in our country are experiencing the stress of having their parents split-up.

Remember that holidays are about celebrating and sharing love and not about squabbles divorced couples may have. How can grandparents help these parents especially during holidays? Here is some good advise you can pass along.

1)  Stay Especially flexible. Even when you have a written plan, things change and unanticipated situations arise. The pre-planned pick up and drop off times may not work or it may be better to trade on a particular year depending on vacations or family in town.

2)  Communicate. Parenting children is challenging when parents live together. It is especially challenging when they don’t get along and live apart. Frequent, honest communication prevents misunderstandings and can make the holidays easier on everyone.

3)  Focus on the Child’s Needs. Instead of focusing on the dynamics between you and your ex or how he or she “always gets his or her way” Think about how you can make the holidays as fun and fulfilling as possible for the child. Most children want and need a relationship with both parents and both sides of extended family. Think about ways you can support that relationship while persevering and furthering your own. You may want to create your own special traditions. Keep in mind that many children, if they had their wish, would want to somehow be able to see each of their parents on a holiday.

Finally, when originally coming up with a plan or in times of serious or ongoing disagreement, it’s a good idea to consult an attorney. Other times to see an attorney include: If there is an in-balance of power within the relationship, if one person is with holding parenting time or alienating the other parent. Family law attorneys have had the advantage of seeing the good, the bad, and the ugly. Many times they can anticipate problems or make suggestions to solve problems and deescalate conflicts.


Tarascio & Del Vecchio Law FirmTheir business model keeps their costs low and eliminates administrative fees so they can pass the savings along to clients. In the event you determine you need more help, their attorneys are available to work under the traditional advanced fee model to offer you the full service of an attorney including in-court representation. https://www.alsarizona.com/

“I’ve worked in various family law firms, and the traditional model didn’t work,” Billie Tarascio says. “Basically, anyone who is not wealthy can’t afford it … I figured, let’s lower the rate, and we’ll do pay as you go. I began customizing what I was doing for clients. She hopes that her new approach catches on enough to change the way people access something – legal service – when they desperately need it.

1 North MacDonald Street, Suite 201
Mesa, AZ 85201  Phone (877) 467-0249 480) 818-6953  Emailinfo@alsarizona.com


Christine Crosby

About the author

Christine is the co-founder and editorial director for GRAND Magazine. She is the grandmother of five and great-grandmom (aka Grandmere) to one. She makes her home in St. Petersburg, Florida.

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